IS IT LOVE OR LUST?
IS IT LOVE
OR LUST?
Love is
affection, attraction and emotional attachment.
Lust is
mostly physical attraction & fu*king amazing sex.
A
lot of guys think they can only have one or the other. So will pick a “pretty
average” chick to settle down with, but before settling down will try to have
lots of lustful relationships with “hot chicks”
But
you can have both. You can have love and lust. That sexy ass girl you wish for,
generally you think she is out of your reach. Or that you are punching above
your weight. So you will place her in a “just sex” category. This is merely
YOUR lack of self worth.
Men and women think differently about a hell
of a lot of things. Intellectually people know men and women are different but
yet as we are all one species of humans we kinda confuse one human thinks the
same as the other as we are “all the same” all human so to speak. And the
biggest confusion in relationships is that men and women don`t recognise that
men and women think completely differently about sex. Apart from the obvious
that you guys have dicks and women have vaginas, but men and women are wired
completely differently also. Men are more logical and women more emotional.
So What Has
This Got To Do With Sex?
Men
“think” that sexy ass women is......
Not
going to want to settle down.
She
is far too good for me so wouldn`t even bother to ask her to settle down
anyways.
Men
think she thinks you are only good enough for sex.
She
is only good enough for sex and not long term.
That
sexy ass chick can pull someone far better than me to settle down with.
Ect
ect ect
Here`s
the thing... I mentioned above that women are more emotional than men. That
means that a hell of a lot of women want to settle down. One night stands and
casual relationships are mainly a guy thing. And generally that guy has some
kind of “issue” with women. (not in a bad way)He may not even be aware of it.
But generally humans are created for love relationships. Not casual.
If
you are in a lust relationship I pretty much guarantee that your women partner
WOULD want to settle down and only stays in the lust relationship to keep your
ass. Which is the entire reason why you attracted her in the first place as
(you both) have low self worth or some form of negative issue. Now for those of
you that are thinking, I aint got time for a relationship that`s why I only do
casual. Bullshit! How many actors spend months away from their partners on set
in different countries? Do they only have casual relationships? Footballers
travel all over the place. Only a few cheat on their Mrs.
Defining
the word “casual” as a title in relationships which in essence is lust, is you
merely stating “I do not want to commit to you” It is not the women you are
committing to that is the problem. The problem is why don`t you want to commit
to the relationship?
And
as stated above, most men do want to commit to the lust relationship but are in
denial of it as they generally think “she`s too good” and therefore she is not
marriage material. For some strange reason men associate a women who is sexy and
good in bed, can`t manage housewife stuff. And housewives can`t be hot to trot
for sex, as household things prevent this.
So Why Is That
And What’s The Solution?
(The Too
Good Syndrome)
The
highest reason why men think this is because of their low self esteem and self
confidence issues. If you meet a women who knows her body, know what she wants
sex wise and loves to look good and looks after her body then she is a
confidant person in essence. She may not even be aware of her own confidence
but the reason why it may knock your confidence is because men generally only
have to sh*t, shower and shave to look good. When you meet anyone who you know
does more than you (even if you are not consciously ware of it) but You Will Be
Aware of it and be taken aback. Therefore subconsciously you will put her above
you and as better then you are.
Now
there are men that actually do just want sex from a relationship. But that in
generally is a very few amount. This is for the guys that are confused about
lust and love.
I Love This
Saying And It`s Relevant....
A man was trapped in his
house during a flood. He began praying to God to rescue him. He had a vision in
his head of God’s hand reaching down from heaven and lifting him to safety. The
water started to rise in his house. His neighbour urged him to leave and
offered him a ride to safety. The man yelled back, “I am waiting for God to
save me.” The neighbour drove off in his pick-up truck.
The man continued to pray
and hold on to his vision. As the water began rising in his house, he had to
climb up to the roof. A boat came by with some people heading for safe ground.
They yelled at the man to grab a rope they were ready to throw and take him to
safety. He told them that he was waiting for God to save him. They shook their
heads and moved on.
The man continued to
pray, believing with all his heart that he would be saved by God. The flood
waters continued to rise. A helicopter flew by and a voice came over a loudspeaker
offering to lower a ladder and take him off the roof. The man waved the
helicopter away, shouting back that he was waiting for God to save him. The
helicopter left. The flooding water came over the roof and caught him up and
swept him away. He drowned.
When he reached heaven
and asked, “God, why did you not save me? I believed in you with all my heart.
Why did you let me drown?” God replied, “I sent you a pick-up truck, a boat and
a helicopter and you refused all of them. What else could I possibly do for
you?”
.....
Now
I don`t believe in god but I believe people get given signs from the universe
to help them evolve and have clarity about their true identity and self. So if
you attract a “too good to be true” women, then that is the universe giving you
a sign to MATCH her confidence. Not to back down and settle with an “average”
chick. But still that is exactly what most do.
I
believe relationships should challenge you to be and want more. Not from the
other person telling you to “fix up”, but by you wanting to fix up. Because by
you doing that makes you a better person. Settling is boring, mundane and
becomes depressing. I advice all single guys to definitely go for women who you
feel is above you. Although that is not “correct” but most women don`t see love
as higher or lower. That is mainly a man thing. Which is how men are wired. But
just because you are wired that way, doesn`t mean she is wired that way.
Men
think they have to look after women, but women want to be protected more then
looked after. In this day and age, women look after themselves. That doesn’t mean
you are useless. It doesn’t matter how beautiful, sexy, great in bed or even if
you met a women who stated she was head director of Microsoft! That woman would
not care if you were on a low wage, brought up on a council estate, had eight
kids with all different baby mums, recently divorced, lived in a bedsit and
wore second hand clothes. Just if you state you love her, stand by her, show up
for her, have her back and protect her will mean far more then you thinking you
have to match her financially. That will
be her equivalent of you “matching her level”
If
your women is on your back, forcing you to fix up and demanding more money from
you then she is not the women for you.
I
am constantly telling guys to tap into their intuition. As guys fail to do this
big time! But YOU KNOW how you feel about a partner. I will also state if you
are stuck what to do relationship wise, ask yourself this question “What would
someone who loved themselves do?” I can much guarantee if you are with a hot
chick or interested in someone who you think “incorrectly” that she is out of
your league, by asking that question your internal knowing will say Go For It!
TAKE ACTION
FAST
If
you have attracted a lust relationship and want to go serious then I suggest
you appreciate the opportunity giving to you by god, your guides or whoever and
go with it instead of chickening out of it with excuses/low confidence. And
here`s why I say Take Action Fast. If this beauty is actually all that, then as
with my God example, she wont be around long. The opportunity will be given but
if you refuse to take it then she will see the relationship not progressing and
opt out to get a man who will commit. Then you can have your self fulfilling
prophecy moment by saying “I knew I wasn’t good enough cos now she’s only gone
and married Brad Pitt look alike” When if you had the balls she could have
married you instead!
So
Take Note And Take Action.
You
see the key to the happy ever after relationship is for you to date your lust partner
because she makes you feel fantastic right? I bet you brush your teeth, look
good, your well alert, on form, smelling good, never late, slightly nervous,
excited and looking hot when you meet your Mrs lust? Why is that? Because you
don`t want to lose her and subconsciously Mrs Lust brings out the best in you,
your best side. Mrs average only brings out your average side. Your internal
self & higher mind knows what best for you and fu*king amazing sex in a
relationship can hold a relationship forever! Sex bonds the relationship far
more than the actual relationship itself. BUT.... Be warned. Great sex is a key
to a long lasting relationship BUT great sex without emotional commitment means
NOTHING. If you are holding back your feeling then you will lose her.
Scared Of
The Ride
If
you get given a sports car, don`t just sit in it as your scared how fast it
will go. Appreciate receiving it, drive it and enjoy the ride. Don’t ask for
your Ford Fiesta back???
Sophia
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